Stan and I had a short chat about our friend Win-son’s registration which sparked a short debate on the process itself.
Nice cake :)
Nowadays many couples choose the path of registering their marriage earlier on and then have the reception later. Some even delay up to a few years due to auspicious dates or financial constraints. Unknown to many, there are several strengths and opportunities when taking this course of action as couples would discover later on.
Registering much earlier than the reception would bring the couple together, enabling them to be legally recognized as man and wife. This is the life that has been long awaited by both, married and finally able to plan for their family’s future. The registration process itself would provide a surge of excitement to the couple and this would be a motivating factor when planning the reception later on. As compared to registration on the day of the reception itself, the anticipation build-up is much greater but may result in catastrophe.
Why is that so?
During the preparation for the reception ceremony, there is bound to be conflict between both bride and groom on the reception details. Paired with contradicting input from parents and in-laws, the bride and groom may end up feeling pressured and stressed. The possibility of the marriage being canceled is not dismissable but it boils down to the couple themselves. If their relationship is built on communication, this would not be an issue as both parties would be mature enough to talk about the problem and compromise. One point to remember is that marriage is between the man and the bride while the others attending are just decoration. Many couples tend to over-accommodate by trying to please everyone. The fact is you can NEVER please everyone. Do your best and… you know the rest of the phrase. Learn to say NO sometimes ;) I guarantee you will be a happier person.
So does this mean registering the marriage earlier on is a win-win situation?
No one can be sure of this fact. There are many who have done the exact opposite and are living happily ever after. One can always register their marriage and plan for the reception later on but who can guarantee that there will not be negative feelings in this course? Planning for something this big together will really challenge the relationship and someone might have a change of heart along the way. It is possible that even with everything in place, that someone will feel obliged to continue with the reception just because they have registered legally!
There is no absolute when it comes to relationships and especially commitment. What is important is that both sides are aware of what they want and that their love is strong. Understanding each others goals in life during courtship would pave a solid foundation but again there is no guarantee. But isn’t this what we humans really seek? The curiosity of what lies in waiting for us in life? Regardless of which path you choose there is no wrong or right.
What’s YOUR choice?
